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Although 30 million have dabbled with online dating, that number is surprisingly low for something that ten years ago was supposed to be a “fixture” of singledom. Perhaps decades of Hollywood plotlines that have programmed us to look for love at the crowded party or the local dog park have dampened the thrill of finding a perfect match with a few keystrokes. While it’s true that these dynamics exist offline, too, online dating makes it easy to eliminate whole categories of people by checking a few boxes.A new book by journalist Dan Slater, , explores the past and present of online dating: “the industry’s rise from ignominy to ubiquity.” Through a series of historical anecdotes and stories—including his own and those of his parents, who met in one of the first computer matchmaking experiments—he paints a broad picture of how the internet has changed the way we date and mate. Census data from 2010 showed that 39 percent of all Americans believe marriage is becoming obsolete,” Slater writes. Slater quotes a number of stats from Ok Trends, the short-lived blog about Ok Cupid directed by one of the site’s cofounders, Christian Rudder.
In fact often when people think about long term commitment they make comparisons to penguins and how they mate for life.
How they search for their ideal partner and when they find them, they give them a lovely pebble to declare their love and then live happily ever after.
But it seems we’re still trying to convince ourselves that technology-assisted matchmaking is kosher. But even online, the pool is deeper for some singles than for others, and this is where Slater, despite his proselytizing, reveals some of the profound limitations of online dating.
Whether it’s yet another style-section trend piece or a shame-tinged confession that we’ve signed up for Match.com, we have yet to get collectively comfortable with the idea of looking for love online. These portals not only present the whole human grid of desire and stimulation but make that grid real and attainable, nonvirtual, bounded only by the limitations of curiosity and imagination,” Slater writes in his chapter about the proliferation of niche dating sites. Online dating lays bare the sexual economy in which some people (namely tall, white, wealthy men) are guaranteed winners, and others (black women, older women, short men, fat people of all genders) have a tougher time.
That's the sort of mentality we're talking about here.