While the age of the child plays a factor, if you’re not looking for anything serious, you shouldn’t play the “I’ll figure it out” game with a ready-made family.Further, if you’re not a kid person or don’t want kids, you should not date a woman with kids to see if you’ll change your mind.Once you’re knee-deep in intimacy with her, ask for an intro.
The willingness to date or pursue a relationship with a single parent requires patience and understanding.
It can take time to develop a comfort zone, not only with a new person, but also with the kids and with the new person as a parent as well.
With rugrats in the picture, there’s zero chance you’ll ever be the top person in this woman’s life—but that window of narcissism was short-lived anyway (if it existed at all).
It can be discouraging for a single mother to hear people say that it will be hard for her to find a man - at least until her offspring achieves a level of independence.
If you stay together, you’ll be Not My Father for years.