Dating man 20 years older than me
I grew up the only child of older parents (who are also 10 years apart), and often felt like an awkward old lady trapped inside a teeny-bopper’s body. I admit, I wasn’t as physically attracted to him as I had been to other partners. Have you ever seen a girl with a hideous boyfriend and thought, “Seriously, how the f$*k did he pull that off? Either he's just a nice friggin’ dude; or being with him boosts her self-confidence. In my case, the age gap was actually a cavernous black hole defying space and time. He’s old and sick now, and she takes care of him (even financially), but she’s still partying and sleeping around. I sometimes imagine what would have happened if I had stayed with my older man.
The last I heard, my older ex was in a tumultuous relationship with another 20-something, this time a singer reminiscent of Björk.
I have nothing against guys my age; I have tried dating them, but I have constantly come across the following:– They're not ambitious enough, or they don't have a go-getter attitude.– They're not financially stable.– They still want to date around.– They have had baby mama or ex-wife drama.– They don't have their sh*t together.
Beside this you have to see at few factors Accepatnce ; Are you comfortable with the fact that you will be questioned time and time again for the choice you are making, considering age and other security with regards to health and wealth .
Family ; Love is not done in isolation our familiy and society is a part to it , you would be ok with the idea or loving , what about your family? Society: when you walk with your boyfriend at time you would be taunted for walking with an uncle or any elder for that matter, you would have to take all these comments without feeling bad or regretting your decision Future : you got to vision , how you plan to move forward and family growth in times to come, it's not very big issue but still to be dealt with .
That was my experience from dating a much older man.
What began as a romantic adventure into unconventional love turned into a disaster I should have seen coming from waaaay over the hill. How old you actually are doesn't necessarily have a lot to do with your lifestyle.
Everything is ok, the real question is "is it wise?