Dating a man who is always broke
He's cute, fun, smart and you can't stop thinking about him. These are signs that he will likely be very cheap throughout the duration of the relationship. There is a difference between loving sports and having a childish obsession with them. If he truly cares about you, his good behaviors will grow stronger. Anyone, regardless of gender, who asks for help paying bills early on in a relationship should raise red flags. By paying for him early on, you are setting the tone that it will be this way for your entire future. Some men with no ambition whatsoever like to talk up a good game, but at the end of the day, they are just saying what they know women want to hear. Some men may not like being tied down to a phone, but responding to your text messages or phone calls shouldn't be annoying; it's common courtesy and respect.
You're already three steps ahead of the game, mentally planning weddings, children and that giant house with the white picket fence. While many men may seem ideal after just a few weeks of dating, upon closer inspection, there can be warning signs that you should avoid a relationship with this person. Dating someone who refuses to do anything new makes for a long-term relationship that is both boring and one-sided. Those who back down and start getting lazier after having sex for the first time were probably only after one thing to begin with. There is nothing wrong with a guy who wants to grow into a better person, just make sure that he's genuine. The I'm-in-my-late-twenties-or-older-and-still-live-with-my-mother guy. In my book, living at home up until age 25 is acceptable, provided the guy was going through schooling or saving up money.
Just do your darnedest to pound the pavement and get a job! A good man who loves you would be happy to support you in your times of need, it would be one way of showing his love.
That may be easier said than done if he has the means... Once upon a time, a "fiance" of mine was going to get me a new car, but part of the reason may have been due to his impending divorce - a way to dispose of his loot and help me at the same time. That didn't change how I gave to him, or how he gave to me. A man that is cheap financially betrays much more than stinginess in money areas. I wonder if I will regret not taking them up on their offers. On the other hand, a selfish man who doesn't really care about you will be offended if you pointed out to him the obvious: that you're broke and in need of financial assistance.
Men who expect you to clean up their dishes, pick up their clothes and take care of them as if they are little children on a consistent basis need a really check, and will likely treat you as if you are their mother for the rest of their lives. While everyone likes a good deal, real men will not make this known when courting a woman. There's nothing wrong with sitting on the couch and watching sports. But this should never trump the responsibilities of a relationship or take precedence over family obligations. These changes in effort can be very foretelling of how he will be a year or two down the road. The I-had-sex-and-now-I-don't-have-to-try-anymore guy. Always play close attention to how a guy's behavior changes once he has had sex with you for the first time. Be very wary of men who talk up a big game of what they plan on doing with their lives.